Don’t let your relationship be the source of someone else’s entertainment. I can’t stress this enough. Two people having issues is inevitable. Unless you’re dating your twin or a genetically modified version of yourself, any partner you have is bound to have traits you don’t agree with which may lead to disputes. These disputes aren’t an issue however; the issue is how you deal with them and move on. May seem like trivial info but if you have a problem with your partner, THEY are still the best person around to resolve those problems. I know right, *jaw meets floor*. Took me a while to master this if I’m honest. Maybe its pride or lack of maturity, but communication is the key to any successful ‘ship that you’ll have with someone. Seems so cliché but it’s amazing how many non-issues become a thing due to a misunderstanding.
I’m just such a trust worthy character (*wink wink*) so people like telling me about their relationships especially when sh*t hits the fan. Nowadays though, people are less open about talking to me about these things just encase they’re nominated for a starring role in my next blog but that’s a different convo entirely… But yea, if you have an argument with your partner and you slander them towards me, don’t come with that happy family vibe when things are resolved bro! Can’t be leaving negative impressions in people’s heads and think they’re just gonna sweep it under the carpet. I’ll be giving your partner side-eyes at the next function and not feel a way lol. We all have those moments when we overshare information and immediately there’s a sinking feeling ‘cos you know this can and will be used against you in the court of friendship somewhere down the line.
I remember when I dated one girl, really good heart but she had insecurities for breakfast, lunch and desert. When we had a disagreement, she’d contact one of my mates to discuss the situation with him *insert pissed off Apple emoji here*. Turned our relationship into a Wikipedia page for everyone to see. To this day I have no idea what her objective was. My friend warned me that if she contacted him again then he’d block her number lol, I genuinely didn’t know how to react to that. When she did wanna discuss things, she’d send those ‘we need to talk’ texts that’ll just ruin my whole calendar month. Those four words remain the quickest way to get an instant reply from your partner or equally put them into a cardiac arrest. There was another time where I met my friend’s FRIEND and when I introduced myself, she replied, ‘ooooh so you’re the one with that relationship’ then burst out in laughter. I tell you, that was the loneliest tube ride back home. When I reached, I locked my door and started listening to Drake because I successfully migrated to Marvin’s Room.
I’m not saying keep every aspect of your relationship under wraps but be weary of the information you give out. People love drama and will be using your relationship as their source of entertainment, reaching for the popcorn whenever you send that “guess what she did this time” text. Or worse still, those 5-minute voice notes where you have to listen with your earphones ‘cos you know the topic is going to be wild! Don’t fall into the trap of signing up for a public relationship. You’ll be the butt of the jokes and don’t even know it. Ashley Madison should be the only ones snitching on relationships out here. One moment someone’s consoling you about things, next moment they’re using your relationship as the latest topic in their WhatsApp group. I’ve seen it so many times… and I don’t regret started anyone of those topics.